Everyone knows about teen girls!! Whatever a mom says...it is never agreed with..and they are always told they are wrong by the daughter. I am not sure why this is....I just know that it seems to happen more than it should.
Yesterday, my daughter really kinda mouthed off to me....over a boy! I didn't like it...not at all. I thought she was 100% out of place and showed zero respect. And, of course, the tears....maybe she should go to Hollywood....she is so good at getting them to flow...at what seems to be only a moment's notice.
I must say....I am sure that not all teen daughters are like this...but a lot are!
I expressed my concerns...my fears...and the "what the hell are you doing with your life anyway?' kinda deal. She didn't care...she just went on and on and I will admit it here and now...
she wore me out! Yep...wore me out! She made me cry because it was a battle...and boy I was mad. Because it seemed like the same old battle....and I felt like I was stuck in that damn Groundhog movie that the guy lives the same day over and over again. Who wants that? Not me!
Finally....the pissing contest...was coming to a close...and boy she wanted to storm out of the house...like a crazy person. At this point, I wanted quiet...I had had enough of all this drama.
Off she went...with the person that she was just gonna show us...she was gonna date him...and we could all go to you know where...because she is 18!
She knew our concerns and she knew that we were not backing down. If she dates this boy, then she can enjoy Christmas and everything without him ever being in our home. He had two strikes with us as parents in just 3 weeks and that was it for us.
She was due to come home ....from her great date with mr. wonderful...so Bob and I hit the bedroom. We ran to the bedroom because we just wanted quiet. And, guess what? We had quiet. She went off to her room...and then morning came.
I made it a point to stay in bed until she left...thus, avoiding anymore drama at the koch ranch!
Then it happened. The skys parted....the earth moved like crazy...and our daughter sent me a text. She said she was done with mr. wonderful and that she didn't want to fight and she didn't want things to be this way! Yep, I know...you can cry now if you want...this would be a good time.
Am I happy that she dumped this fish back in the ocean? Yes! Do I know that it was hard for her to do? YES! Does she deserve better out of a relationship....definitely yes!
I think....on some small and tiny level...I just may have gotten thru to her. Is it finally a win for the parental side....definitely! Is it long overdue? Definitely.
But, it is not about winning....I don't care if she dates a young man that can't see, speak, hear, talk...whatever. I do care about how he treats her...and when my daughter starts excusing unacceptable behavior...well, then I guess its time for the pissing contest.
As parents, or so it seems, our children...I believe from about the age of 14...they think they are smarter than us. Maybe some of them are...if an IQ test were given. But, just maybe...due to all of the life experiences that we have survived and lived long enough to talk about...just maybe...they should count for something.
Hello WORLD....I am one proud parent today....because one of my many kids...made a great decision...and for that....I am thankful!
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