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Throw Away The Crystal Ball

You know....no mother wants to be right about anything that will upset their child! But, for some reason...our kids...as do most...often times think they KNOW everything. I'm sure they wonder how we...their parents..ever made it down the road alone. LOL...

I actually wish I were WRONG more often regarding our many daughters. I think if I were wrong more, they would get hurt in their daily lives less! I end up right and they end up disappointed in whatever it is that has happened to them.

I'm no young chick...LOL...and I think my almost 55 years should count for something. Much like a HUGH store credit or something...within my world. However, when it comes to our children..it counts for nothing. I have heard that when the parent is 65-70 years old...the adult child eventually gives them credit for knowing a few things in life...just in time to slap their ass in a nursing home down the road.

At any rate, I have this talent...that I can ...effectively...smell a rat! Yep, I can smell a rat, alright. And, I can also, almost always, tell when I am being lied to. So, I saw how my daughter's friend treated her in the past and how she was nasty and how she was NOT to be trusted and my daughter...parted ways with her. I move to AZ and next thing you know, she is friends again. Yep, I want to vomit! I warn...said daughter...to be careful...u know...this road has sucked in the past, dear! Remember now, I, the parent...know nothing! So, this daughter of mine, doesn't listen...and decides ....are u ready...??? She moves in with the idiot! Yes, she does! Now, here it is...just a few months later and this roommate of hers now has NO job and is actually a filthy pig as far as their living space is concerned. Keep in mind, my daughter is no clean machine...so just imagine...how dirty this girl has to BE to tick my kid off about it!

Now, I feel bad....I was right...my kid is avoiding this idiot by changing when she comes and goes to her apartment so as not to run into her, etc....and again...Mom here was right...kid was wrong..and there are NO WINNERS for this category today!! :(

Are You A Hoarder Or Just Plain Lazy?

We've all seen the hoarder shows on television. I will admit that I have great difficulty feeling sorry for these people...and many times, find myself calling names out to the tv! LOL...I'm sure..there are a SMALL percentage of these folks that are experiencing deep mental issues that really need some immediate care and help from family and loved ones. But, come on now people...say it with me...most of the rest of them are just plain LAZY!!

Isn't it something that no matter how messy the home is...they always, always seem to have a special spot where they can SIT!!! I could see if they have trouble moving around or are wheel-chair bound, etc...but it's hard to watch. The reason it is so hard to watch is that the FIX for it is so very simple so there is really no reason for anyone to ever live like this!

Here's the fix for all of you hoarders out there:

Grab a trash bag and begin throwing things away...there has to be SOMETHING in that huge mess you have created that you can part with...a pizza box? a paper towel roll? a newspaper...that you will never read?

and so it begins...it is this type of small step that will put any hoarder on the right track!

I often wonder when I see these folks that are hoarding if they are just doing it for the attention...be it..not the best attention to receive...but at least something?

I, for one...as I clean up my home, bathtubs, showers, toilets, dishes, floors, do yard work...often feel...under appreciated..so in my mind...I wonder what my family would do if they arrived home to find everything we owned in huge piles throughout the family room? I suspect some yelling would be involved for sure. My husband would probably tolerate it for a few days...thinking that I was temporarily ill or something...but after a week or two...I have a feeling I would be homeless!

No one likes to clean constantly...but these hoarders...stopped "cleaning" years ago! I can't believe they are not really ill from the smells and germs of their homes! But, even a hoarder, that claims to be unable to part with things can donate items to Goodwill or friends...and not have to live like they are living.

So, I say...as someone that doesn't sit in one chair all day...with a zero value outlook...that it just takes grabbing a trash bag...and doing just a little to make things way better for yourself!

Children

I often times wonder....if they would ever miss me should a truck hit me some day? Will they really miss me or will they just miss my helping them, or my cupcakes I make or wish they had gotten that potato salad recipe from me that my Mom taught me how to make?

I'd love to be a fly on the wall...see how they react...???

I'm sure one will truly miss me...out of 5 daughters...but you never know. I'd like to think the grandkids would miss me...but you never know.

I wonder if, perhaps, as many parents...maybe I try to fix things for them a little too quickly. Perhaps next time there is a problem or an issue, maybe I should tell them that I am sure THEY will work it all out and that I have to go because I have a golf date! I bet some parents talk like this, why can't I? Because I am that idiot that stops what I am doing and immediately tries my best to help them. As most Mom's know, the thank you's are not showing up like they should. Is it because they are busy than I am and have no time to thank anyone for anything. Or is it just that I have done what was expected as a mother, so then, no thank you is really required in their minds.

I just don't know but I do know that I don't feel appreciated nearly enough. Maybe, it's because I was born in June under the sign of Cancer and maybe I am just too sensitive about everything. I don't know. I feel like I try to do the best I can for my daughters, but somehow, I always walk away feeling I failed them. They don't say that, of course, I just feel it inside of me. Oh, well, maybe I should give them a survey to fill out on my performance. Give me a 10 if the meal you just consumed in record speed was to your liking. Or give me a 10 if I babysat long enough for you today. How about a 10 if I researched something for you on Google today because you thought you were too busy to do it, and my time has no value. Perhaps a 10 if I loaned you my car, or allowed you to move back in with me, or loaned you money, or picked you up at the mall or at a friend's house, or drove you to school each day, or brought home your favorite foods from the grocery store?

Just maybe, my mother surveys would come back okay? One never really knows!